Is 2020 A Rebuilding Year For You?
As a lifelong fan of the Oakland/La/Maybe Vegas…. Raiders, I have spent many years loudly proclaiming to all of my friends that, once again - This is a rebuilding year!
Their track record hasn’t been great lately and they have struggled to find that magic combination of team mates to let them dominate on the field again.
And - this can happen for us in love too.
Maybe you’ve been through a rough break up or divorce, or maybe you’re struggling to find the right team to really deliver the love life you’re been dreaming of.
And - like the Raiders, Maybe you just need a little time to “rebuild”.
If that resonates with you, and you’re feeling the strain of another Holiday season without a significant other, or you’re dreading the love bombing of Valentines Day, fear not - this issue is all about you!
So, how do you begin to rebuild after one or more disappointing seasons?
For me, the first step is getting clear on what you really want.
Are you looking for marriage? Kids? Polyamory? Just someone to spend time with?
What does your own unique version of Happily Ever After look like?
Once you have a really clear idea of what kind of relationship you want- you’ll want to dive deep here and think about how you want to feel in that relationship.
What are you’re must-haves and your deal breakers?
What kind of partner can give you what you’re looking for?
This is so important!
A lot of us go out into the dating world just accepting whatever we can get.
But, in order to really get the Happily Ever After you deserve, you need a blueprint for what that will look like.
Now, it’s time to start dating - and I know that can seem a bit scary.
Where do you even meet people in this day and age?
Well, the short answer is EVERYWHERE!
Fill your calendar with events and classes and little places that really speak to your soul and light you up.
You could meet the love of your life at a coffee shop,and open mic night, or even the grocery.
Nowhere is off limits!
Or, you can do what a lot of women are doing and go online.
Online dating can be a bit intimidating - but, it can also be wildly successful.
consumersadvocate.org has created a wonderful guide to help you decide which site is right for you and to help you navigate the online dating world with ease.
Check out their guide here.
Whether this is you’re first time in the dating world, or even if you’ve been dating for years, you can make this your Year Of Love with these simple tips.
And - as always, if you need a little guidance on the road to real love, you can contact me anytime.
Let’s Make 2020 the Year Of Love for us all.